One very sad sentence

“I had the house but I lost the home. I had success but I had no significance. I had power but I had no purpose. I had money but I had no meaning.” That was a powerful realisation for Simon Bailey.

He saw one day that by being totally wrapped up in his work, he’d neglected those he loved most. His daughter had asked him why he’d missed her concert, why he was never there, why he pretended to talk to her, but never looked at her.

By not taking the time to be with those he loved, and by not listening to them when they needed him, he almost lost them all.

When I read “I had the house but I lost the home”, my heart flipped. Such sadness in that one sentence.

While being so focussed on expanding his business success, Simon had also forgotten why he he’d gone into that role in the first place.  He’d wanted to do something that would help people.  He’d always been passionate about making a difference, even if it was to one person at a time.  But somehow he’d got caught up in the running of the business, the targets and the goals.  But when he returned to work after being off for a couple of weeks with flu, he saw that he’d hardly been missed.  He had failed to be of any significance. 

Simon had seen his income rise and had all the shiny goods to show for it.  He was able to give his children the gizmos and gadgets they’d asked for, the pony and the trumpet lessons.  His wife was able to furnish their home beautifully and had a great car.  But what they really wanted from him was time and attention. They craved fun in the park, laughter and play fights, while his wife wanted quiet connection over a glass of wine. Yes, he’d made plenty of money, but none of it had any true meaning.

It’s so easy to forget what really matters, when you’re focussed on gaining ‘success’.  Whether it means more money, a promotion, a better business, or more clients, there’s always plenty to absorb your attention and your time.  Your most used phrase becomes “in a minute”, “let me just do this”, or even “I’ll make it up to you”; but you never do.  

It’s not hard to get back on track and re-discover life as it’s meant to be lived. 

It means examining your values and what’s important to you.

It’s owning up to what you want, without the guilt. 

It’s realising that your life is that – your one and only precious life. 

It’s deciding to live life to the full – which is what “to be fulfilled” really means.

Fortunately for Simon, he learnt his lesson. He got help and learnt how to move from hearing to listening. He says he’s learnt that the people in his life don’t need him to fix anything; they just need him to be emotionally available.  He’s learnt that he has a choice and that the life he wants is his to create.

Above all, he’s learnt that he can be successful, but have fun, and love and laughter too.  He can have deep connection with those he loves.  He’s now regained his home, and his family. He’s rediscovered his purpose and significance to those around him and to his world. His life has meaning and he’ll go on to both make an impact and leave a legacy. 

Do you know someone like Simon?  This could be anyone, woman or man. I work with clients who recognize that they could be close to losing everything if they don’t make changes. That might be their health, a partner or even just a social life!  Outwardly they might appear to have it all, but inside a big chunk is missing. They see that they they’re missing out on a whole lot of what life has to offer. They just don’t know where to start.

So they contact me and start with a conversation.

How to get that elusive work-life balance

What is Work-Life Balance?  We all talk about it these days but increasingly fail to achieve it. If you’re feeling pulled in all directions, here are 7 tips to help you have a life that feels easier. 

 

  1. Smart phones just don’t lead to a smart life. We’re plugged into the outside world the whole time and this isn’t good for us. For some it means that work colleagues can always reach us, demanding something from us, or just keeping our minds on our work. The secret is to keep our phones separate from our “off time”. We see too many parents on their phone instead of watching the football match or performance. We see parents texting while in the playground instead of enjoying the company of their children. Let’s take back control of our leisure time and don’t let our phone dictate our behaviour..

 

  1. We all play many roles these days and trying to be perfect at all of them doesn’t work. An urge for perfection can destroy us. Our expectations and demands upon ourselves are never met, so we always feel incapable, or lacking. Let’s try and be great, but not perfect.

 

  1. We hear of “setting boundaries”, and they’re becoming increasingly important. There are so many demands on us and we need to decide what our priorities are, and then make sure that time and energy wasting activities aren’t allowed to encroach. We can say No. Say No to those people who want to use up your precious time and attention in chit chat at work. Decide not to waste time on Facebook when you could be engaging with those who really matter, and are in the room with you. It’s a case of putting in firm boundaries so that your best time is given to the people and activities that really are your priority.

  1. When your life is seriously out of balance, it’s a tough job to get that balance back. So don’t. Don’t try and change everything at once but start with baby steps. If you’re always juggling phone calls with the office when you’re home with the family, commit to leaving it in your bag between 7 and 8pm for example, or on Tuesdays and Thursdays. Then slowly build it up until you can enjoy your evenings at home. Don’t try training for a full marathon in order to get fit, but start with a walk in your lunch hour. It’s always better to gradually increase any activity.

 

  1. A balanced life means self-care too. We have to sleep, eat, and bathe, and for some this is all they manage to squeeze into their busy schedules. But at what cost? We all know that we need to eat healthily to keep our bodies in good shape, and we know how we feel when we’ve been drinking too much and eating bad food. But not only is this your one precious life, but your one body that you’ll inhabit for the rest of your days. So you might as well look after it. Setting aside some time for exercise (let’s just call it moving) or meditation, (we can call it relaxing), is imperative if you want to be a high functioning human being.

 

  1. What can you let go of? Too often we commit to activities that we’re either not very good at, or we could delegate to someone else. If you can let go, it can be positive on two fronts. Firstly you regain some time or energy and secondly, you might empower somebody else by allowing them to take on that responsibility. You don’t need to feel guilty about delegating when it’s a win-win situation.

 

  1. If you don’t have a good work-life balance, don’t put off improving it. It’s so easy to go through life saying “I’ll take that break when I’ve reached my target figures”, or “I’ll join the children at Saturday sports when I’ve got that promotion.” Time is the one thing we can never get more of, which means we can’t go back and have that experience again. All we can do is make sure we don’t miss out in the future. If you’re devoting all your time and energy to your work, you’re missing out NOW.

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I’m a Coach and I can’t fix your problem.

Life and Business Coaches seem to be everywhere these days. In fact anyone can be a coach, there are no exams to sit, and no regulatory body.  Anyone who’s offered advice to a friend can set themselves up as a coach. A twenty three year old fresh out of Business School can say they’re a Business Mentor!

There’s a big pool of coaches out there now, so if you were curious about getting a coach, how would you choose one?

Most coaches say they’ll help fix your problem, get rid of your limiting beliefs, or give you the answer to that problem that’s going round and round your head. Some coaches even say they’ll hold you accountable.

I suggest that you find yourself a coach who has a powerful and fearless approach and recognizes that you have limitless potential to create an extraordinary life. Find yourself a coach who believes in you, even if you don’t. 

A rare coach knows that you already have the answers. A rare coach knows that you have potential and capability far beyond anything dreamt of right now.

Most coaches will give you an insight, but a great coach will enable you to have your own life-changing insights.

Most coaches will answer your questions, but a great coach will help you increase the quality of your questions.

Most coaches will be a friend, and act like your best friend would. But a great coach will be brave and keep nothing back. They’ll be brutally honest if that’s what serves you best.

Why would you want an “accountability” coach? To make sure you get the things done that will help you reach your goal?  A great coach will help you find a vision that’s so inspiring that every action step becomes a joy. You won’t need to be held accountable.

Daniel Coyle, author of The Talent Code, wrote, Seek a coach who scares you a little. Why: It’s easy to confuse pleasure and comfort with actual learning. But truly good coaches are about challenging you to get to the edge of your abilities, time and time again.  Seek out coaches who are authoritative.  Who know their stuff, and who take charge.  A little scary is good.”

You might wonder, with a good partner and supportive friends, why would you even need a coach? Your partner will encourage you and tell you you’re fantastic, but they won’t push you to find that goal that’s hidden deep within. Your best friend will be there to share a problem with, but they won’t encourage you to live that wild dream that might leave them behind. Your boss will guide you at work and even set you challenges, but they won’t ask what’s the life you really crave.

If you have a problem, go and find a coach.

If you want to be inspired, challenged, and scared a little, find a powerful and fearless coach.

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What I learnt from my little visitors

The huge advantage of working for yourself is that you can take time off whenever you want!  That’s what I did. And I don’t apologise.

You see, my daughter and her family live in Los Angeles, so when she comes to visit with my two grand-children I drop everything; and I mean everything.  

After all when you decide to run your own show it’s because you want freedom, choice and time to spend with those you love, right?

For two weeks while Frances spent some time in London, we had the children staying here.  And what I realised was this; it was such fun to live in the present moment.

Apart from realising that we didn’t have to go on big expensive outings, or give high octane experiences, I learnt once more that the greatest pleasure can be had from the simplest of things.

Maggie loved checking on the chickens and the excitement of bringing in the freshly laid eggs each morning.  Ethan enjoyed the responsibility of letting them out and giving them water.  We enjoyed exploring in the woods, letting our imagination run wild (Harry Potter had nothing on the adventures dreamt up by these two!).  We picked fruit, visited a neighbour and stroked an emu, (yes, an emu!).  

Sure, we took in a film, visited an outdoor museum and a Tudor House and learnt heaps, and we managed to fit in 4 different playgrounds.  But there was just as much fun to be had making “fairy doors” to pin the garden and having me paint their faces. Oh and the squidgy foam soap I bought for bath-time.

If you asked them what they did the day before, they found it hard to remember the details.  If you asked them what they’d like to do tomorrow, they couldn’t say.

We all lived in the present.

There is a great quote that I love. “If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, in the future.  If you are at peace, you are living in the moment.”  

This is to say that there is no point looking back and regretting what you did or didn’t do.  It is gone, so let it go. 

None of us know what the future holds so why worry about it unnecessarily?

There is only the present, where we are right now.  This is what I learnt from my little visitors.  Live in the moment.  LIVE in the moment.  Make the most of every day.  Look for the excitement, wonder at the simple, ordinary things around you. Appreciate what you have and find pleasure in what you can do NOW. 

What a great lesson!

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What I’m giving up.

Calm scene with flower

May was a tricky month weatherwise. One day we were basking in a heatwave, the next my gutters were overflowing in a monsoon-like downpour. But the day came when I knew had to put away my winter clothes (though being in England I kept by a few jumpers!), and get out the lighter trousers and caftans.

 Going through the mounting pile, I felt an urge to get rid of a whole load. I’m the sort of woman who hangs on to clothes for years. Oh yes, I mean decades! But looking at some items I couldn’t bear the thought of getting them out of store in the autumn and wearing them for yet another season. I was bored. They were dragging me down.

 I’m giving up on having things in my life that drag me down.

 My energy is precious these days and I want to surround myself with people who lift me up, things that I find beautiful and experiences that enrich me.

I’m also giving up on time-wasting. My time is precious, I can never get it back and I can’t see anyone inventing a way of getting more of it! So I started to think about the things that I spent time on needlessly.

I’ve been getting very selective on the TV I’ll watch, though I must admit this one was forced on me this month while our television gave up on us and we’ve had to wait for the repairman to come knocking. I missed watching the Chelsea Flower Show and it’s been agony not being able to watch The Handmaid’s Tale (definitely not uplifting but so gripping!).

I’m trying to give up sugar. I ignore the biscuit tin in the house, even though there’s very little in it. I can now stand by a sweet counter and turn away. I treat myself to one small but very good chocolate each afternoon and I can truly savour the deliciousness instead of just popping sweets into my mouth without noticing.

But the BIG thing I’m also trying to give up is complaining. Have you tried that? It’s a difficult one!  I get annoyed by drivers speeding past me in small towns; people chatting in doorways when I’m in a hurry; companies not getting back to me; data protection systems; fruit packaged in plastic, birds pooping on my clean car….. the list goes on.   But when you switch your focus from situations that are frustrating you and stop… breathe…and smile, life becomes easier.

When you complain you’re focusing on lack and what’s not working.  You can get caught in a downward spiral of dissatisfaction making you angry and frustrated. 

When you look instead at what you do have and what’s making you feel good, your mood is instantly uplifted.  Suddenly you notice the sway of the trees, the smile from a stranger, even the song from the bird that pooped on your car!  Gratitude I’ve found is the greatest healer, mood enhancer and life improver.

 And that’s what it’s all about, wouldn’t you agree?

The secret to getting over fear.

Do you love a good roller-coaster? Why is that? I would take a guess and say it’s because when you’re waiting to set off, you feel really scared! It can be an intense fear, when emotions flood your system.

Life is often like this. We’re ready to do something brave and then the little inner voice starts talking.

“What if you hurt yourself?”

“What if everyone thinks you’re crazy?”

“What if you fail?”

Fear can hold us back and it does, time and time again. Often the fear is so great that we don’t go any further. We turn around and get on with our familiar life. It may even prevent us from EVER trying something new. And that’s a tragedy.

There’s a secret I try with my clients. It’s called reframing. And it works.

There’s a lovely saying that “Fear is the other side of Excitement”. Think again of the roller-coaster. You can reframe that fear and call it enthusiasm or excitement. We’re usually afraid of something we don’t know. So think of fear instead as “Excitement for the unknown”.

When you realise that you can choose whether to feel afraid or excited everything changes.

 Businesswoman jumping in water   . Mixed media

 Think back to when you were a child learning to swim. What if something happened, maybe a daft uncle pushed you in, or kids splashed around and you ended up gulping for air. If you felt as though you were drowning you would understandably equate learning to swim with dying. It would certainly put you off learning to swim for a long time!

We all know the fear would be irrational though. Many are. But they can still send you into a spiral of anxiety, self-doubt and negative thinking. Behaviours can then be established to overcome these feelings, such as over-eating, becoming a workaholic or an alcoholic.

 When fear takes over, it actually dictates our behaviour and actions. We make decisions based not on opportunity or potential, but on the fear that holds us back. That’s when we lose our freedom. Our freedom of choice.

Do you have old fears that still show up for you today? Are there old fears about life that hold you back, cause you to make bad decisions and impact the life you’d rather have?

 Let me know below and next week I’ll talk about how to crush that fear and build emotional resilience.

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Whatever you want, you need this first.

Last week I watched a short video about a guy named Jon who, at the age of 54 and a grandfather, had the same taut, fit, physique as he did at 29. He was asked how he managed to retain such a body. Of course he mentioned the way he’d always eaten healthily and exercised, and worked 3 – 4 times a week. But then he talked about what I’ve always thought to be the most important requirement when wanting to attain anything in life – PURPOSE.

 You see, I believe it’s not HOW we do anything. We all know what we need to do to attain that goal we’re after. We probably have the dates set, the action steps worked out and the practices all lined up.

 It’s WHY.

 If you have any sort of goal, whether it’s to run a marathon, lose weight, have a better relationship, or grow a business empire, it’s the WHY that will get you there. What is your PURPOSE for doing this thing?

 For Jon it was that he wanted a great relationship with his wife and a sex life where they continued to turn each other on. He wanted to set a great example to his kids. He wanted to remain fit enough to travel to extreme places on earth.

Once you have a strong enough purpose, and you’re deeply connected to that purpose, the disciplines you put in place become a given. When you have your purpose, you have the reasons that make everything easier. It becomes easy to do what it takes and it becomes easy to avoid anything you shouldn’t be doing, or giving up.

 When I was in California last week I came across the book Achieving Vibrance by Gay Hendricks. Maybe you’ve read The Big Leap by him, and that great book prompted me to buy this one. I’m enjoying reading about the steps that I need to do each day to ensure that I’m an energetic, vibrant woman well into old age. Oh yes, I know I need to make changes!

It was when reading about simple exercises and a way of breathing that the following resonated with me.

“Living in a human bodymind is like inheriting the Taj Mahal. Maintaining it is a way of honouring the gift. I inherited the great gift of a human bodymind, as did you.

Let’s honour that blessing by opening the windows of our own private Taj Mahal each day to let the breeze blow through. Let’s commit a few minutes of our day to letting the flow of vibrance stream through us.

Enjoying the breeze and honouring the gift: until I can think of a better meaning of life, I’m going to go with that one.”  Me too.

It’s all about finding a purpose and then committing to the disciplines or habits you need to put in place. These two examples are about physical fitness but it goes for all parts of our life, and business too.

Karen on the beach

Often clients come to me to talk about their goals. The conversation usually starts with dates and numbers, such as “I want to lose ten pounds by June 1st”, or “I need to find 10 more clients in the next 3 weeks.” But the questions I like to start with, the ones that really get them thinking deeply are “how do you want to feel?” and “what’s your purpose for wanting this?”

They’re both really the same question.

When we have a goal, it’s not the goal we’re chasing. We’re chasing the feeling that we believe achieving the goal will give us. We’re chasing the purpose.

Once you know your purpose, you know how you want to feel, and it’s a deep inner knowing and certainty, then that goal is probably going to be achieved. You’re so committed that you don’t have to find reasons for doing what you need to do.

When you don’t need to find reasons for exercising, for writing, for practicing whatever you’ve decided to do, then you don’t find excuses for avoiding them either.

Being deeply connected to your purpose, makes going for your goal SO much easier.

If you’re aiming for a big prize, growing an empire or getting fit, ask yourself first, WHY am I doing this?  Once you have the answer to that, your goal is already in sight.

 

How to fund your dream life

When you have a clear vision of your dream life you can ensure that your business will fund it by getting clear, and asking one question!  
 
We’re in February already and this is a short month.  Are you progressing with the goals you had for 2018?  Let’s be honest here, we start out with all sorts of good intentions but it doesn’t take long for them to slip!
 
In the past 3 weeks I’ve given a talk at 3 networking groups and it’s gone down SO well.  It’s a talk that perfectly brings together my work as a Life Coach, and also a Business Mentor.  I gave it the title, “Creating your dream life and how to make your business fund it.”  
 
I took everyone though 4 steps, and I’ll share them here. 
 
Fund your dream life in 4 steps
 
DESIGN IT:   Decide on what you want your life to look like in the year ahead. Not your business but your life!  Be very focused; where do you want to go on holiday, how would you like to improve your home, do you desire to travel more?  You may want more time to expand your hobbies, or go to the theatre; buy a new wardrobe or eat out more. You may decide you want to work less and take every Wednesday off!  Involve those nearest to you and write out your dream list!  
 

COST IT:  Now you calculate what will this dream life cost you.  Get very specific on your figures and then add the total of the cost of living your dream to  your general budget.  You’ll need to account for taxes and expenses, and know your profit margin.  If you are able to be, do and have all you desire (and let’s be real, no gold plated yachts please!), what would it cost you?  

TRANSPOSE:   The third step is to take those cost of those dreams and see how the business can fund them. We’re really getting down to the nitty gritty. 

Let’s take an example. Caroline calculated that her dream life would cost her £200,000. Her business has a 20% profit margin so needs a million pound turnover. That seemed like an enormous sum until we started to break it down. 

Caroline knew that her average customer would spend around £6,000 per year.  This meant she’d need 166 customers to fund her dream life. The good news is, she already has 66, so she needs 100 new customers this year. Now her dream life is starting to look achievable.

 Now we come to the BIG QUESTION that moves everything forward. 

“What would need to happen in order to….?”

PLAN IT:  When Caroline has an appointment with a potential client, she knows she’ll usually win business from  She has a conversion rate of 1 in 2.  So to win 2 customers a week required 4 meetings. Because she knows her figures, she realises that she needs 8 leads a week.

 Just 8 leads a week!  Now we’re talking!

Asking the question “what would need to happen in order to…?”, now helps her decide on her course of action.  How can she generate 8 leads a week?  

 She’ll look at various marketing pillars, and consider any constraints such as time, space and staff. 
 
Every entrepreneur needs to know what the average spend of a client is and how many clients are required each month.  When you know that, you can then ask that question. 
 
Once you have your plan of action and know exactly what you want your life to look like, you no longer have just a dream but a very attainable goal. 
 
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Did that make you wonder about how you can make your business really work for you instead of you working for your business?  If so and you’re ready to uplevel your life and business you need to ask that question.  I would love to support you in achieving your dream life in 2018.
 
A twelfth of the year has passed already!  If you’re serious about moving forward and don’t want to put your dream life on hold any longer, book a Breakthrough Session with me. Email me at karen@karenjburge.com and get back on track!

My lightbulb moment on the boat to Capri

There wasn’t a cloud in the sky, the sea was a bright blue and we were on the way to Capri.  It was a relaxing holiday and at last I was getting time to think. 

I always say if you want to have fresh new ideas for your business, you need to step back and give yourself the time and space to think.  And here I was thinking about my coaching, my clients and how to formulate my message so that women like you would really “get me”.

On the boat to Capri

I’d been wondering for a while how to amalgamate the fact that I’m a great business mentor with over 26 years of experience, together with helping women realise that they could have a life, and business, that flowed easily and elegantly. 

I want to help women build a brand, and grow their business into something extraordinary, and I also want to see them have it all without stress and overwhelm.  Now I’m starting to own what I have and what I am.  People often say I’m elegant, even when I’m in jeans and T-shirt (which still makes me laugh), and I must admit, I love the finer things in life;  and I know I just love finding new ways to market and grow a business in a simple way.

Gliding towards Capri with glass of Prosecco in hand and a very handsome Italian at the tiller, the thought suddenly came to me – The Elegant Entrepreneur!

Yes! Suddenly it all fitted together, I could do both!  Why shouldn’t my clients have it all? The more I said it the better it felt, like trying on a new dress.  Here I was, an entrepreneur, really enjoying a proper break, and living the life a lot of entrepreneurs strive for.  After all, this is why I’ve always had my own business!

So here I am, and my mission is to help  established entrepreneurs who want to expand their business but are already so overwhelmed that they feel they can’t take on any more. They want the life they imagined in the first place; one of more time, more freedom, and a helluva lot more fun!

Do you know someone like this?  Is this you?  If being an Elegant Entrepreneur resonates with you, I’d love to hear from you.  If you desire success, but with ease and flow, then it probably does.  If you want a life on your terms, based on feeling free and joyous and successful, then come and join me as an Elegant Entrepreneur!  

 

 

 

 

You’re an entrepreneur? Use your lover to help your business flourish!

Ok I admit it, I’ve been a serial entrepreneur for over 30 years. What did I do? I sold children’s clothes, specialist food, cleaning services, gift wrap, journals, a night at the cinema… and so it went on. Some were successful, some not so much but I gained a LOT of experience.

 I’m still a business owner and I regularly meet other women who are running their own business. A recent meeting got me thinking about how I used to run my life around the next project or deadline. How I’d be juggling several balls in the air, and I’m sure you know what I mean if I mention the school pick-ups, catching trains, organising the cleaner, getting ready for an evening out, putting a meal on the table, as well as the nuts and bolts of launching a new business and growing it. Phew!!

 Now I use my 4 Womanly Aspects every day and life is just so much calmer! I can bring in the balance that means I no longer feel as though I’m spinning plates. I’m a balanced entrepreneur!

When you’re in business, you utilize the Boss aspect of you, but it’s easy to ignore the others. I’d like to tell you about letting your Lover into your life, so that you don’t hit burnout. After all, the Lover aspect is all about life-force and vitality and you need plenty of that!

Entrepreneur and Lover 

  1. Your Lover embodies Self-Respect. You respect yourself and your place in the world. When you allow your Lover into your life you automatically set your boundaries because you recognize that your needs are as important, if not more, than anyone else’s. You cannot give freely to others, or be a successful entrepreneur,  until your own needs are met. Instead of living your life to everyone else’s demands and plans, your Lover helps you use your feminine power by gently saying “No, I’m not able to do that right now.”
  2. Igniting your Lover means igniting your creativity. When you are working IN your business, you are rushing around, making calls, meeting people, writing copy, and all the myriad of things you need to do. You spend all your time being reactive. Allowing your Lover in means you spend time working ON your business. That means you spend time each day being creative. The Lover is about playfulness and when you ignite her, you dream up unique ways of attracting customers. You are open to inspiration from different sources. You think of beautiful ways of reaching out to people in a way that feels effortless, instead of on the rampage.
  3. When you are aligned with your Lover, you know deep down that you are enough. You’re capable enough to grow this work of yours. You are smart enough to plan strategically. You are accomplished enough to be a winner, and you also know deep down that you deserve every success. When you know that you are enough, your confidence pushes you forward with tremendous force. You make the impact you always just dreamed about.
  4. Your Lover enables you to bring pleasure into your life. We all know the saying ‘Work and no play makes Jack a dull boy”. When you slog away at your business into the early hours, work becomes a burden. When we have a heavy burden, how do we feel? We feel put-upon, we feel an expectation, we can feel as though we’re walking through treacle, and constantly under pressure; and that’s not good for any business. But let some joy into your life and you immediately feel lighter, vibrant, and open. Open to ideas, open to possibilities and open to change.

So yes, allow your Lover aspect into your life, ignite her and see what happens. By all means go and buy fresh flowers, take time out for a massage or an hour reading a great book. Take the ‘phone off the hook for an hour or make the weekends about family and friends.

 Whatever you do, ask yourself how you can bring some joy into the day. Tell yourself that you are enough, learn to say no gracefully and give yourself the gift of time to dream.

 THAT is how a business flourishes into something wonderful.

 If you would like to find out more about using your 4 Womanly Aspects in your life contact me for your complimentary Awakened Woman Assessment. Just to assure you, I never ever do hard sales on the calls (there’s plenty of it out there), I do this from a genuine desire to help and get to know you.

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