We're bombarded with advice on how to transform our lives at this time of year, But there's no shortcut. Do this instead.
It's that time of year when we consider making New Year Resolutions. We read endless posts on social media about what will make 2019 a great year. “Do this one thing to improve your life in 2019!” they cry. Or "How I lost 2 stone in 2 months!". Even, “My three easy steps to building a six figure business.”
And we love it because it implies there's a shortcut. If we just follow their system, and tread in their footsteps, everything will be different.
We love the idea of learning from someone else, especially the well-known, whether it's Frank Kern, or Tim Ferriss, Usain Bolt, or Michelle Obama - how they became so successful. And there are wonderful things to learn from all of them. But none of them achieved instant success. And neither will we.
I’ve done it; bought the course, followed the challenges and tried the systems, but I’ve discovered with myself and my clients, that actually that's not how it works. How it works is this:
Make a commitment to a small change everyday. And stick to it.
That's it. That's all you need to do.
For instance, if you set yourself a goal to run a marathon, you wouldn’t stride out of the door and run all those kilometres immediately would you? You’d find you couldn’t do it and instantly give up. No-one can do that unless they’re already a trained marathon runner.
You’d break it down. You’d run small amounts gradually building up. You’d start at the beginning.
If your goal is to run a marathon this year, you don’t even have to decide to run a kilometre every day. However, you can commit to just putting on your running shoes and stand at the back door each day. It's the first small change.
The beginning of any journey, whether it’s losing weight, learning a language or building a business, is to commit to the first steps. When you’re concerned about achieving the big audacious goal, you can take the tiniest step you can think of. And commit to that.
Find the one small thing that you can do, every day, or every week, which over time will add up to what you want. You just need to choose one.
But you do have to commit. You need to make a solemn promise that you’ll do that thing, no matter what. You may miss a day, and that’s OK (yes, we’re all human and life happens), but you can promise yourself that you won’t miss two days in a row.
The very act of doing the smallest thing drives you forward. These small changes can add up to something huge. What could you achieve in a year?
Having breakfast just one hour later can lead you to lose the excess weight you want to shift.
Learning one phrase in Italian each day, or even just a word, would enable you to chat to a local in 12 months.
Thinking of one potential customer each day could double your business turnover.
Like a lot of things in life, it’s not easy, but it is simple.
Tiny, tiny, baby steps. They won’t transform your life, but they’ll certainly start the journey.
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About Karen Burge
I found my passion in using my experiences and training to help others through whatever life threw at them. I have studied NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming), Breakthrough Coaching, the Thrive Programme and the Desire Map. This means I can draw on a number of tools and pathways, creating coaching sessions that are completely bespoke to you.