How to Feel What You Want to Feel

Do you know how you want to feel? In last week’s blog I shared a method of finding out just how you want to feel every day. When you wake and get out of bed, when you get in the car, when you pick up the ‘phone or when you have to hold a tricky conversation.

Last year I followed Danielle LaPorte’s Desire Map and became an official facilitator.  I bring a lot of her theories into my coaching.  I do firmly believe that when we set ourselves a goal, what we’re really looking for is the feeling we think getting that goal will give us.

I discovered through the process I gave you last week that what I wanted to feel was vibrant, wealthy, accomplished and open-hearted. But I don’t want to wait until I’ve lost 5 pounds, built a successful business and able to give a lot of money away.  I want those feelings NOW!

How to feel what you want to feel

The best way to generate these feelings each day is to look for those things you’re already doing or can take up, that will make you feel the way you want to. I know that doing my exercise routine will make me feel energised and vibrant. So even when I don’t feel like getting up and moving around, I remind myself that I want to feel vibrant every day and this is going to do it!  Oh yes.

You might want to have calm in your life. What makes you feel calm? Is it going to a yoga class or taking a walk along a beach? Maybe it’s sitting quietly, breathing softly to lyrical music.  Can you make sure you give yourself those experiences on a regular basis?

Say you want to feel rich. There’s nothing wrong with that. What would give you that feeling when there’s only a fiver left in your purse? When she want to feel wealthy, my friend Claire will arrange a test drive in a car she can’t possibly afford right now. She says it makes her feel fabulous and inspires her to achieve her goals.

This week ask yourself how you want to feel each day. What can you do to generate that feeling? It can often be the crazy things, so do let me know, and tell me, what you do to feel the way you want to feel!

PS. Have you seen my new Working Together page? I’ve put together 3 fabulous coaching programmes for women who are fed up of everything being the same and want to start stepping forward. There’s probably one that’s perfect for you.

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