Ok I admit it, I’ve been a serial entrepreneur for over 30 years. What did I do? I sold children’s clothes, specialist food, cleaning services, gift wrap, journals, a night at the cinema… and so it went on. Some were successful, some not so much but I gained a LOT of experience.
I’m still a business owner and I regularly meet other women who are running their own business. A recent meeting got me thinking about how I used to run my life around the next project or deadline. How I’d be juggling several balls in the air, and I’m sure you know what I mean if I mention the school pick-ups, catching trains, organising the cleaner, getting ready for an evening out, putting a meal on the table, as well as the nuts and bolts of launching a new business and growing it. Phew!!
Now I use my 4 Womanly Aspects every day and life is just so much calmer! I can bring in the balance that means I no longer feel as though I’m spinning plates. I’m a balanced entrepreneur!
When you’re in business, you utilize the Boss aspect of you, but it’s easy to ignore the others. I’d like to tell you about letting your Lover into your life, so that you don’t hit burnout. After all, the Lover aspect is all about life-force and vitality and you need plenty of that!
- Your Lover embodies Self-Respect. You respect yourself and your place in the world. When you allow your Lover into your life you automatically set your boundaries because you recognize that your needs are as important, if not more, than anyone else’s. You cannot give freely to others, or be a successful entrepreneur, until your own needs are met. Instead of living your life to everyone else’s demands and plans, your Lover helps you use your feminine power by gently saying “No, I’m not able to do that right now.”
- Igniting your Lover means igniting your creativity. When you are working IN your business, you are rushing around, making calls, meeting people, writing copy, and all the myriad of things you need to do. You spend all your time being reactive. Allowing your Lover in means you spend time working ON your business. That means you spend time each day being creative. The Lover is about playfulness and when you ignite her, you dream up unique ways of attracting customers. You are open to inspiration from different sources. You think of beautiful ways of reaching out to people in a way that feels effortless, instead of on the rampage.
- When you are aligned with your Lover, you know deep down that you are enough. You’re capable enough to grow this work of yours. You are smart enough to plan strategically. You are accomplished enough to be a winner, and you also know deep down that you deserve every success. When you know that you are enough, your confidence pushes you forward with tremendous force. You make the impact you always just dreamed about.
- Your Lover enables you to bring pleasure into your life. We all know the saying ‘Work and no play makes Jack a dull boy”. When you slog away at your business into the early hours, work becomes a burden. When we have a heavy burden, how do we feel? We feel put-upon, we feel an expectation, we can feel as though we’re walking through treacle, and constantly under pressure; and that’s not good for any business. But let some joy into your life and you immediately feel lighter, vibrant, and open. Open to ideas, open to possibilities and open to change.
So yes, allow your Lover aspect into your life, ignite her and see what happens. By all means go and buy fresh flowers, take time out for a massage or an hour reading a great book. Take the ‘phone off the hook for an hour or make the weekends about family and friends.
Whatever you do, ask yourself how you can bring some joy into the day. Tell yourself that you are enough, learn to say no gracefully and give yourself the gift of time to dream.
THAT is how a business flourishes into something wonderful.
If you would like to find out more about using your 4 Womanly Aspects in your life contact me for your complimentary Awakened Woman Assessment. Just to assure you, I never ever do hard sales on the calls (there’s plenty of it out there), I do this from a genuine desire to help and get to know you.